What a horrible week. I talked some with each of you last week about continuing with the task force mission. It is my opinion that the triplet task force needs to stay together. I even think the name is still appropriate. As far as I'm concerned Sabrina is and will always be the mother to triplets - two on earth and one in heaven. Her needs in relation to Jeremiah are just spiritual and emotional, instead of physical. However, there has been talk about a name change and I can totally understand and support that! What if we're simply the Task Force? Any other ideas?
Now to the schedule.
1. Thank you notes. Sabrina was talking at the funeral about getting out thank you notes. I realize that sounds crazy, but I know she can be stubborn. I feel that very often someone else steps in for the grieving person and writes the thank yous for them.
2. Jenna's bday? It's coming up and I'm wondering if Sab's going to need some help putting that together. Jen suggested that we could get her ideas and intentions and just do the grunt work.
3. Mandi Sisco grabbed me at the funeral and was talking to me about a conversation she had with a friend who had lost a baby and is now part of a ministry to hurting moms with the same experience. She said that the third month is going to be the hardest. That is about mid March. One idea that came to my mind was that I might offer to come to her house and watch the kids a couple times a week so she could go jogging - I know "runners" seem to find a lot of comfort in that. Mandi wants to put together a name gallery, and she might need our help.
God promises to work ALL things for good and we can trust Him.......I just keep reminding myself of that.
Love you girls, Sarah
Hello girls!
1. I don't know anything about funeral thank you note ettiquette, but of course if we decide to help I'm available for that. I don't have many talents, but I can sure write a thank you note! : )
2. I think we just need to run this one by Sab. If she'd like some party planning help, I'd love to!
3. Great idea to watch the kids so Sab can run...it's simple and practical.
4. I agree with Sarah that Sab is still mama to Micah, Noah, and Jeremiah. I think keeping or changing our name depends on how the name affects Sabrina. Caroline and Marcie, is your feeling that Sab would prefer calling us the TTF or just TF?
5. I've heard Sarah mention a Jeremiah scrapbook. I think that would be a wonderful thing for the whole family to have. Anybody know if Sab plans to do one, or did any of you plan to do one? I don't have the pictures to make one myself, but I'm happy to make two or three or several pages if someone wants to spearhead that.
I've seen each of you love and support Sabrina so beautifully, especially over the last week. You're each a picture of true friendship.
love,
jen
I made a scrapbook of all the pictures I had of the boys, kids and Jeremiah... It wasn't much because I didn't have a lot of pictures, but I gave it to them on Christmas Eve.
Tuesday they started putting some of Jeremiah's things away... It was a hard day. I think Jeff it going to build a small chest to put his things in. This will be a good reminder and a way they can keep him in their hearts and home.
Whatever you guys decide about our name and funeral thank-yous is fine with me.
Thanks for all you have been doing!
One last thing... I am hoping to have a clay scuplture made for them through Etsy... If any of you would like to give $5-$10 it can be a gift from all of us! I have attached a couple picture of the idea. Only it will be special ordered with mom and dad, two older children and infant triplets; one with wings. It will be the pearly white color. Let me know what you think!
Hi girls!!
So nice to come home and have such thoughtful, loving emails for Sabrina. She has certainly felt supported through this time. I love you, girls!!
So, I'll see if I can remember everything.
1. I'm more than happy to help with thank you notes. Great idea!! Let's run it by Sab and see what she thinks and how we can do that for her.
2. Sab loves party planning, she might be able to handle that perhaps. Let's just ask her and see what she wants to do.
3. I love the running idea, I know she will be anxious to do that as soon as it warms up outside. We also have Jeff's birthday coming up (jan. 18), it might be an opportunity for all of us to go to their home and take care of their kiddos, while they have a night out. If at least 3 of of us could work something out together, then our hubby's could take care of the children in our homes. It was a thought, we all know how hard it is to get away.
4. I've thought about the name thing too, because I know there was a day that week, she could hardly speak the words. Triplet is a difficult term now. I propose Boy Brigade or Baby Boy Brigade! Kind of a fun change perhaps. I'm up for anything though, we can certianly keep the name forever though too. It's so maddening, I don't really know what to do either. Our relationship to her will never change though, so it doesn't matter as long as we continue to offer her support and assistance.
5. I'm definitely not good at scrapbooking, so I'm so proud of Caroline for already taking on that challenge. Great job!! I guess now we have all gotten the "Name Blessing" email from Mandy too, so I will continue to forward that around and keep that idea going. She had some wonderful insight. I do love this idea!! And it even seems easy enough for a ditz like me! Caroline, I love the clay sculpture idea too, I'm happy to chip in and be part of that gift-giving. Just let me know what I owe you. Thanks so much, girls!!
Blessings on your new year! Marcie
