Regroup

Hey ladies,

What a horrible week. I talked some with each of you last week about continuing with the task force mission. It is my opinion that the triplet task force needs to stay together. I even think the name is still appropriate. As far as I'm concerned Sabrina is and will always be the mother to triplets - two on earth and one in heaven. Her needs in relation to Jeremiah are just spiritual and emotional, instead of physical. However, there has been talk about a name change and I can totally understand and support that! What if we're simply the Task Force? Any other ideas?

Now to the schedule. 

1. Thank you notes. Sabrina was talking at the funeral about getting out thank you notes. I realize that sounds crazy, but I know she can be stubborn. I feel that very often someone else steps in for the grieving person and writes the thank yous for them. 

2. Jenna's bday? It's coming up and I'm wondering if Sab's going to need some help putting that together. Jen suggested that we could get her ideas and intentions and just do the grunt work.

3. Mandi Sisco grabbed me at the funeral and was talking to me about a conversation she had with a friend who had lost a baby and is now part of a ministry to hurting moms with the same experience. She said that the third month is going to be the hardest. That is about mid March. One idea that came to my mind was that I might offer to come to her house and watch the kids a couple times a week so she could go jogging - I know "runners" seem to find a lot of comfort in that. Mandi wants to put together a name gallery, and she might need our help.

God promises to work ALL things for good and we can trust Him.......I just keep reminding myself of that. 

Love you girls, Sarah

Hello girls!

 

1.  I don't know anything about funeral thank you note ettiquette, but of course if we decide to help I'm available for that.  I don't have many talents, but I can sure write a thank you note!  : )

2.  I think we just need to run this one by Sab.  If she'd like some party planning help, I'd love to!

3.  Great idea to watch the kids so Sab can run...it's simple and practical.

4.  I agree with Sarah that Sab is still mama to Micah, Noah, and Jeremiah.  I think keeping or changing our name depends on how the name affects Sabrina.  Caroline and Marcie, is your feeling that Sab would prefer calling us the TTF or just TF?

5.  I've heard Sarah mention a Jeremiah scrapbook.  I think that would be a wonderful thing for the whole family to have.  Anybody know if Sab plans to do one, or did any of you plan to do one?  I don't have the pictures to make one myself, but I'm happy to make two or three or several pages if someone wants to spearhead that.

 

I've seen each of you love and support Sabrina so beautifully, especially over the last week.  You're each a picture of true friendship.

 

love,

jen 

I made a scrapbook of all the pictures I had of the boys, kids and Jeremiah... It wasn't much because I didn't have a lot of pictures, but I gave it to them on Christmas Eve.

 

Tuesday they started putting some of Jeremiah's things away... It was a hard day. I think Jeff it going to build a small chest to put his things in. This will be a good reminder and a way they can keep him in their hearts and home.

 

Whatever you guys decide about our name and funeral thank-yous is fine with me.

 

Thanks for all you have been doing!

One last thing... I am hoping to have a clay scuplture made for them through Etsy... If any of you would like to give $5-$10 it can be a gift from all of us! I have attached a couple picture of the idea. Only it will be special ordered with mom and dad, two older children and infant triplets; one with wings. It will be the pearly white color. Let me know what you think! 

Hi girls!!

 

So nice to come home and have such thoughtful, loving emails for Sabrina.  She has certainly felt supported through this time.  I love you, girls!!

 

So, I'll see if I can remember everything.

 

1.  I'm more than happy to help with thank you notes.  Great idea!!  Let's run it by Sab and see what she thinks and how we can do that for her.

 

2.  Sab loves party planning, she might be able to handle that perhaps.  Let's just ask her and see what she wants to do.

 

3.  I love the running idea, I know she will be anxious to do that as soon as it warms up outside.  We also have Jeff's birthday coming up (jan. 18), it might be an opportunity for all of us to go to their home and take care of their kiddos, while they have a night out.  If at least 3 of of us could work something out together, then our hubby's could take care of the children in our homes.  It was a thought, we all know how hard it is to get away.

 

4.  I've thought about the name thing too, because I know there was a day that week, she could hardly speak the words.  Triplet is a difficult term now.  I propose Boy Brigade or Baby Boy Brigade!  Kind of a fun change perhaps.  I'm up for anything though, we can certianly keep the name forever though too.  It's so maddening, I don't really know what to do either.  Our relationship to her will never change though, so it doesn't matter as long as we continue to offer her support and assistance.

 

5.  I'm definitely not good at scrapbooking, so I'm so proud of Caroline for already taking on that challenge.  Great job!!  I guess now we have all gotten the "Name Blessing" email from Mandy too, so I will continue to forward that around and keep that idea going.  She had some wonderful insight. I do love this idea!!  And it even seems easy enough for a ditz like me!  Caroline, I love the clay sculpture idea too, I'm happy to chip in and be part of that gift-giving.  Just let me know what I owe you.  Thanks so much, girls!!

 

Blessings on your new year! Marcie

The Email from FWC

Jeremiah David Hay Celebration Service

Due to the many calls of care and concern for Jeff and Sabrina Hay and family, and the short notice of celebration services of the life of Jeremiah David Hay, First Wesleyan Church is sending out this message to inform the congregation.

Celebration services will be Thursday, December 23, 2010 at 10:00 a.m. in the FWC Sanctuary.  Jeremiah is available for visitation at Stumpff Funeral Home until 9:00 p.m. tomorrow, Dec. 22.  The casket will remain closed for services on Thursday.

Jeff and Sabrina Hay and family thank you for the many expressions of love and concern, and for lifting them up in prayer.

Goodnight Little One

Where do I even start?

Today we said goodbye to a sweet innocent baby. This wasn't just any baby... This was Jeremiah; a son, a brother, a grandson and a nephew. A baby that was loved and cherished. A baby that was fed, changed, kissed and cuddled. This baby had bonded with a mother and father, learned the sounds of his sisters laughter and the coos of his brothers. This baby was a gift from God.

Though we don't understand the why's and the what's if's. We do understand that family and friendship is very important during times of heartache and pain. None of us can truly know the hurt and sorrow that Jeff and Sabrina are feeling during this time but we do know that You Dear Jesus have a plan for each little Hay. We just cry Dear Lord for your strength. Help our families get through this.

To you Jeremiah: You were so very speacial "Little One" and you will never be forgotten. We love you so much.

Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." Matthew 19:14

More Time With Sab

I got to spend some time with Sab and the girls tonight at the Christmas parade and here are a few new details I learned.

 

1. She has discontinued meals from the "church". She said she didn't want to "overstay her welcome". I know we talked about doing one meal a piece each month. Do you all have any interest in pursuing this idea? We could pick it up on January, since Dec. can be so crazy. Thoughts!?!?

 

2. Emma's Upward practices start next week and are on Thursday nights at 6:00 pm. Sabrina said that on the boy's current schedule that works out, but I remember her saying that next week they have a check up and she anticipates being able to let them go longer without eaing in the night.....so I'm not sure how long that will last. Just tuck it away in your mind. : )

 

All for now,

Sarah

Great!  Very helpful!!  I do know she has not had any of the frozen SOS meals from the church, but still does not have room in the freezer.  I also tried to take burgers by today and she completely resisted.  They're obviously not starving, but I do agree the meals from us would be helpful.  We just need a plan and get it scheduled!!  That's the only way I get anything done!!  Ugh!

 

I do know the boys' appointment is on Thursday.  Pray that Jeremiah has reached the 7 lb. mark by then and they can begin to get more sleep every night.  They are doing so amazing!!  I'm utterly impressed with the smooth transition!!  Jeremiah has been fussy, so I think the appointment this week with doc will be very enlightening.  Ok, that's what I know for now too.  Sabrina has seemed very upbeat and positive with my limited access to her right now too, but I am encouraged!!  God is so good!  Thanks so much for all the prayers, girls!!

A Picture Inside

Hello ladies,

 

I spent an hour with Sabrina today helping out at the 2:00 pm feeding and I just thought I'd share what I experienced. You all might know most or all of this already, but we said we'd keep each other informed - so here you go. : )

 

I walked in to a spotless kitchen with bottles drying on the rack and milk warming in the sink. In the living room Jenna was watching a movie and Sabrina was sitting with her. The Christmas decorations are already up and the room was picked up and looking as good as I've ever seen it. Sab put Jens down for a nap, which she resisted, but seemed to go down without much trouble at all.

 

Sabrina made up the bottles and handed me one, at 2:00 sharp we walked into the boys room and woke them up for their feeding. She said they sleep all the time, which I thought was an exaggeration BUT I think they literally sleep all the time that they're not being fed. They have them limited to their bedroom, which is where we fed and changed them. It was a piece of cake. They are beautiful and sweet. Jeremiah still seems tiny to me, but Micah has a double chin! : )

 

The boys are doing well, Sabrina is looking GREAT! I just kept telling her that I was A M A Z E D!! She was smiling and said she was still hesitant to tell people that because she's so nervous about what is coming. This Friday is the dreaded 40 week mark. : ) And she's uneasy about that.

 

So that's it, I was in and out and tried to be helpful. Things are great as far as I could see.

Task Force In Action : )

Hi, Sabrina! A few nights ago the Triplet Task Force got together to talk about ways to make your life a little smoother. Below are a couple of the products of that meeting. Honestly, I feel a little hesitant to even share these with you because I don’t want to be pushy or intrusive. A simple “No thank you” is all you need to say if we offer more help than is helpful!

1. On your front porch you’ll find a door sign explaining (gently) that you can’t have visitors. If you think it would be helpful, tape it up on your door. If you don’t have a need for it or would just prefer not to use it for any reason, toss it. If you’d like a door sign with different wording, it would be no problem for me to slap another one together with the wording of your choice. Do what is best for you. DO NOT feel obligated to use this…only do so if you find it helpful.

2. When we try to imagine ourselves in your shoes, we find the idea of being alone with the kiddos is daunting – at least while the babies are so small. So we pooled our ideas about a possible schedule that provides one or two adults to help you throughout the day. That schedule is attached. We have not contacted the suggested helpers to confirm any of this; the last thing we want to do is boss you and your family around! J Our ideas are intended to be a help and an encouragement: any part of the schedule that you like you can pursue, any part that you don’t like you should, of course, ignore.

Remember we’re here for you! Call, text, or email any of us if you ever feel we could be of service. We love you…and your beautiful family!

Noah Coming Home

From Sabrina:

Noah is coming home today.

That was November 8! How amazing!!

Micah Lloyd Hay is Home!

Hello friends!!


I wanted to send a quick update on the Hay triplets because I know everyone is curious. First of all, thank you for your continued prayers and support for each of the Hay boys! The doctors continue to be so impressed, and Jeff & Sabrina know that God is answering everyone's prayers for strength and development for their sons! They were able to bring Micah home last night. Jeremiah and Noah will continue to be in the hospital for a little while. Noah will probably be the next to come home this following week. I believe Jeremiah is still on a feeding tube, however, they are out of their incubators and all sustaining normal body temperatures. Micah is still very slow with his bottle, Noah is continuing to learn and Jeremiah is the next to try. I also believe all boys are now over 5 lbs.! Amazing!!

Bringing the babies home while leaving other(s) at the hospital does bring it's own challenges however. Now that Micah is home he cannot visit the NICU with his parents. Plus, medical personnel is advising them not to allow visitors at home throughout the flu season and they will not be leaving home much either. Sabrina has said that she delivered these babies at a very bad time of the year, the beginning of flu season! Please remember that these are special needs babies at this point and their health and development depend on them avoiding sickness of any kind. So, as much as we are all dying to get our hands on them, the reality is that mom & dad have a very big job of keeping everyone well throughout these first very crucial months. They will not be allowing visitors and all meal deliveries to their home at this point must be arranged when Jeff is home to come out and pick up the food from the driveway. We all know they will be very anxious to share the boys with their church family, so please help us spread the word that the boys' premature immune systems will not handle many visitors at this time.

Of course, they have a tremendous support system with all the family in town. Please contact any of them if you can't reach Jeff or Sabrina in the next few weeks. Jeff is still working most days and Sabrina's mom will be around as much as possible. If you would still like to help with meals, please contact Crystal Ennis at crys259@yahoo.com. Sarah Kaelber and I have also had many other ideas about their needs this year. If you have any suggestions, feel free to contact either one of us. Finally, continue to lift them in prayer each time you think of them. They have been so richly blessed, but to whom much is given, much will be required! I know they have felt very supported by their church family so far. Thank you for each and every prayer!
--

Marcie Robbins

First Wesleyan Church

Nursery Director

Three Weeks and A Day

Micah weighs 5 lbs 5.2oz.

Micah has to pass a sleep test tonight before he can go home. We will know the results around 12 tomorrow. If he passes, we will pick him up tomorrow evening.

Noah weighs 5lbs 3oz.

His feeding tube has been removed, and he continues to take all feedings by bottle. However, he is still on caffeine. He has to be off of this for three days without any heart/oxygen problems. Then he has to take the car seat test and the sleep test to come home.

Jeremiah weighs 4lbs 10 oz.

He is still on a feeding tube bc he can't always finish an entire bottle. He too is on caffeine and will need to do the same as Noah.

That's the scoop on the boys. I'll keep you updated.

What An Honor

Jen, Marcie and I convinced you to let us take you to Tulsa to see the boys. It was great for us to see the babies, get to pray for them and watch you interact with them.

I was surprised how unscary they were. They were perfect, just tiny. So amazing!

You with Micah. He wasn't eating great at this bottle, but you said that the very next bottle he ate the whole thing. He was up to 4lbs 13ozs in this pic.

Noah's bed - I loved the scripture you have on all the boy's cribs.

Noah sleeping. Ahhh!

This is Noah and Jeremiah. We didn't hold any of the boys because we didn't want to even have a chance to get them sick. Nurse Anna is holding Jeremiah on the left.

Tiny Jeremiah, only 4lbs 3ozs here. And the only little guy who wasn't yet being offered a bottle. 

Look how cute!! We went out to dinner at the Olive Garden afterward, yummy!

Sabrina, I know right now you're nervous about how you are ever going to pull this off. The task before you seems insurmountable and intimidating, but by the time you read this I know you're going to see how faithful God is and how much He loves you!!

Transparency

I am almost afraid to share these thoughts bc it is being quite transparent, and sometimes my transparency has gotten me in trouble. I can sounds too harsh and dark when I am post-pregnancy and when I am completely transparent. However, I feel like I need to get these thoughts out and you guys are the avenue. Sorry! You can delete, respond, or ignore. Just please don't condemn me too much bc, well, bc I said so!

How am I going to do this? Five kids with three being newborns. I really am sitting on a fence the size of a needle point and I contine to sway back and forth between a complete lunacy feeling and a maybe this can all work feeling. I know "God does not give us more than we can handle", but this is really how I am feeling. I don't see how we will sleep for so many weeks, and that really freaks me out bc I do not even see where I can sneak in any respite. Honestly, none. I am not trying to whine or complain. I am unsure of this new role for me that GOd has asked me to take. I am not sure I can really do it. No, I am not trying to get you all to say flattering things. Really. If you do have some insight though, that would be great.I just don't see how I can balance my older kids and my younger. The older will go insane this summer without being able to go to the pool, softball games, kiddie park, and all of our usual fun. Well, I think I may go insane without some of these things. How will I even give them attention? How can I keep all of this balanced? Perhaps I am looking for any tips as to how to balance any of this?!? How can I keep my big kids engaged and happy this summer? How can I survive on truly, virtually no sleep? When will I shower? When will I clean? Was I really made just for poop, spills, noise, chaos, and crayons?

Sorry for spilling on you guys. Jeff has heard it enough, and even God has heard it enough. I am just so unsure about this new journey in my life and becoming so anxious about the time the babies actually come home. I feel as if I am in the eye of a hurricane as if I am sitting right outside of this huge storm that may swallow me whole. Any tips or, yes, even verses will be appreciated.

The Answers:
Sabrina - the transparency! The realness! I love it! I think it's exactly the way God wants us. Has He already been molding and refining you through the arrival of the triplets? : )

Okay, girls, I'm not a Bible scholar, so somebody please correct me if I'm wrong. My whole life, I've also heard that God doesn't give us more than we can handle. But I think He does. And through having more than we can handle, we learn to depend on Him to handle it and to accept help from people who love us. Sabrina, you don't need to think about the summer. I know it's hard not to worry - because, yes, it does seem a little impossible to care for three babies and cart two big girls around to all the fun summer activities - but you can't focus on that now. There will be time to figure it out later. Your job now is today. Doing your best to hug your girls and your husband, taking care of yourself, pumping, smiling when you think of your beautiful tiny boys, praying. "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life.... But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." (Matthew 6:25a & 33-34) You can also remind yourself of His provisions for you in the past. He has saved you and brought you into a relationship with Him. He has given you a husband to partner with in life and in parenting. He has given you a home with closets full of clothes and a fridge full of food. Smart, spirited, healthy, funny daughters. The physical and emotional endurance to carry the triplets as long as you did. Three perfect little babies who should very soon be ready to move away from their little incubators and ventilators and into your home. Good medical care until they are ready. A family and church family and friends who are eager to support you through prayer, meals, babysitting, and cleaning.

I'm so glad you wrote. No one would argue that the task before you is great. It's important that you stay vocal about what you're thinking and feeling. You and your family are so much on our hearts. I have to wonder if my experiences with my own girls (the baby years were admittedly dark) served the purpose of preparing me to remember you often in prayer.

From Jen


How are you going to do this? That's a totally natural question. You'd be LOONEY not to ask. I'm more concerned about the words fear, harsh and dark, which give me the impression that Satan is telling you that you can't do this. "LIE FROM HELL!!" (I really hope you were in church for that sermon, otherwise that could seem offensive. : ) )

Jen I think you're right, I heard a great Beth Moore talk about that very scripture. (And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. 1 Corinth 1-:12-14) Beth said God is talking about temptation, not trial. So, this verse could still apply to you, but may I suggest that the temptation would be to believe that you're not able to pull this off and you can stand on His word that says you can!

So here's what you're going to do. Every morning you're going to wake up and claim these scriptures.

Lamentations 3 22 Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. 23 They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
This verse actually encouraged me to learn and sing to myself Great Is Thy Faithfulness. : )

Isaiah 31 but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

I agree with Jen, being given more than we feel like we can handle stretches us and builds character. You'll shower at night when you have the most help and after the big girls are asleep. You'll clean only what you HAVE to. And here is what I still do. I pick one thing to get done everyday. So if that's dusting today, that's all I try to get done beyond taking care of the home and kids. I know this doesn't compare but I brought home 2 babies, still managed to finish the homeschool curriculum I started with Ashlyn and eventually kept the house show ready to sell. You take it a day at a time and when you look back you'll amaze yourself and give God the glory. The poop, spills, noise, chaos and crayons are going to deliver to you more satisfaction than you can even imagine, you already know that!

Your concerns for the girls are real and serious. It's going to be a hard year for them. So you're going to have to put them on the team. When they have ownership of the happiness and wellness of the babies they'll have more patience with your absence. So feel good about giving them little jobs and "putting them in charge" while you go to the bathroom or whatever. We'll all join you in praying that they become the best of friends, leaning on each and looking to one another for companionship. I remember saying to Ashlyn, "Man, it's hard for me to hear the boys crying all the time, is it making you crazy too?" Things like that remind the girls that it's a hard time for everyone. And your friends might already be planning to take the boys on so that you and Jeff can have special nights out with the girls - you should use that time to celebrate survival and encourage one another! : )

Please don't ever apologize for asking for counsel and support from other moms who love you! I'm already SO proud of you for talking this thing out and being honest - go boundaries!! Even though these boys are a total blessing, it's going to be tough.....no doubt about that. But you don't have to worry, "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. Tim 1:7 You won't be doing this alone, we love you!

From Sarah

My Nephews

Kevin and I finally got to see the boys in person Sunday and they are completely adorable. We even got to touch their soft baby skin. They are still doing great and mom is starting to feel much better!

Mommy Knows Most

I feel so blessed to have such prayer warriors in my corner! My emotions have been great today...just need to get over this c-section now!


Boys...I LOVE LOVE the idea of praying for one each day. I believe that God can do anything and he already has bc the nurses and staff are constantly amazed that I made it so long, that they are so big, and that they are so healthy. All ways that I am able to point it all back to Him bc I did nothing!!

Here are the qualifications for going home:

1. At least 4.10 lbs.
2. Breathing on own w/out any oxygen or flow. Flow is just the air we are breathing given to them via a cannula. Oxygen would be added oxygen.
3. Holding own body temp w/out any help.
4. Taking all food from bottle within 15-30 min. Suck, swallow, breathe.

Here is where each boy is...in birth order

Micah

1. 4lbs 3 oz
2. No added oxygen very low flow.
3. Still incubated but maintaining good body temp inside the incubator.
4. Still to young to take a bottle. They will try at 34 weeks which will officially be Friday. So hopefully some time next week he is learning how to bottle feed.

Jeremiah

1. 3lb 11oz
2. No added oxygen and came off of flow this evening.
3 & 4. Same as Micah

Special request: This little guy has an undescended testicle which apparently occurs with many preemies. Most drop on their own. So, we are praying that just that happens so that he does not need surgery.

Noah

1.4lbs 5oz
2. No added oxygen and very low flow.
3 & 4.Same has Jeremiah

Overall we pray that their organs continue to develop strong and healthy and that they get no infections. They have such weak immunity that it is super easy for them to get an infection which can obviously do a lot of damage.

I am not sure if that all made sense or not. Let me know what I can clear up. Thank you so much for praying! God is in control!

An Inside Look from Marcie

What an overwhelming week!!  Sabrina has been desperately trying to speed her surgery recovery to care for her little nest.  It has been difficult for her to imagine caring for the girls at home while the boys are still in NICU and she can barely even move or walk, let alone drive to Tulsa daily.  The nurses in the hospital didn't seem to aid in her recovery much, because Sabrina mentioned they weren't even regularly giving her her pain medications!  I know it has been very hard for Jeff and, especially Sabrina, in her hormonal postpartum state, to watch 3 tiny little guys barely breathe in their incubators.  I know they are good sized triplets, but 4 or now, 3 lbs. for some, is a very small baby!!  Noah is the largest, but has had to stay on the most oxygen this week.  On Friday, Jeremiah was continually taking out his oxygen from his nose and putting it into his tiny mouth.  Nurses were constanlty fretting over them and when cords became tangled or slightly moved and unplugged, then all the alarms started going off.  They have been monitored very closely since the moment they were born.  The one little peek I got of Micah's face seemed to remind me of Emma, but Sabrina stated that his face seemed to be more elongated like Jenna's was.  They are absolutely tiny, beautiful miracles and gifts from God!!  For the past 3 months, no one has been able to figure out how God did this!!  No, they are not invetro babies!!  God is good at multiplication!  Praise Him!!

How It All Began

These are excerpts from some emails that I was included in, written by Marcie:

(Oct. 13) Yes, triplets arrived safely and are doing VERY WELL, considering they are 4 lb. triplets. Micah was 4 lb, 7 oz; Jeremiah was 4 lb, 1 oz.; and Noah was 4 lb. 10 oz. They have been on very little oxygen so far and all reports have been good. Sabrina is recovering and no one has seen the boys much yet since they are in the NICU. I think Sabrina will be able to start holding them tomorrow or possibly tonight. The boys will be at St. Johns for a while, Sabrina should be released on Friday.

As far as their meals, they do not have freezer space right now. They are also unsure how much they'll even be home in the next few weeks since the boys will be in the hospital. Her mom is in Broken Arrow and there has been talk of them staying overnights with her. Emma and Jenna are staying home with Sabrina's sister Brittany. I'll continue to keep you posted, but they don't need us yet. They just need as much privacy as they can get and recovery time, and of course, prayer for those boys!! Praise the Lord everything has gone so well!! Absolutely amazing!!
 
(Oct. 16) Sabrina Hay was just released last night.  She seems to be recovering a little better and hoping to rest better now that she will be home.  Pray for her strength emotionally as she has so many new obstacles before her!  The boys will continue to be in the NICU for 3 - 8 more weeks depending on the speed of their development.  Sabrina has still not been able to hold Noah, even though he was the largest triplet, he is still on the highest amount of oxygen.  (I'll try to get the rest of this information right, but it was hard for me to keep straight yesterday, I can't imagine how overwhelmed she feels with 3 in ICU.)  Jeremiah and Noah were not digesting enough of their food, so their goal was to increase input and output.  Jeremiah's testicle still needs to drop to avoid any kind of procedure.  Most of their tiny obstacles all seem to be developmental in nature and all reports seem to be that they will improve with time.  We are going to add prayer!!  Sabrina plans to spend her Mon, Wed, Fri afternoons in Tulsa with the boys.  Jeff is going to work 5am - 1pm those days and they are hoping to be home for dinner with the girls.  She said it would be wonderful if we could bring in dinner on those nights (around 5:30, I assume).  They still don't have freezer space, so what we bring will have to be refrigerator ready or hot.  I know there are several families ready to help with this, so I will pass this info. along.  I think Crystal Ennis (crys259@yahoo.com) is going to start a sign-up list and contact others.  I'll continue to keep you posted.  Thanks for all your help!!

"I miss my brothers"

Sabrina after the boys had arrived- She looked wonderful for just having surgery. :)

We welcomed our nephews into the world last night. Although we didn't get to see them in person, we got to watch their sweet little healthy breathing bodies on a Tv monitor. They are all so sweet!

When Jenna and Emma walked in, Emma was a bit confused about the situation. She wanted to see Sabrina's belly and didn't understand where the boys went. She said, "I miss my brothers". The girls won't get to sneak a peak at their brothers for several more days. Jenna hasn't grasped the fact that she is no longer the baby in the famliy. She still thinks mommy is pregnant with TWO babies. :)

We love you and you are in our prayers!

They're HERE!!

The boys are born, the boys are born!! (And it's Ashlyn's birthday too)

I don't have the first pics, but I received a text at 5:09 from Marcie that they were getting ready to start the c-section. Micah is 4lbs 7ozs, Jeremiah 4lbs 1oz and Noah 4lbs 10ozs. Here are Marcie's other comments: Surgery went well. Sabrina was beginning to feel it. Still don't know much about the boys, but all signs seemed very positive. Jeremiah and Noah shared a placenta, won't know until tomorrow if Micah is identical too. We have not seen them yet, sabby either. Jeff had stayed with them. So far so good.

Congratulations, Hay party of 7!! Unbelievable! : )

One last look

We had you guys over tonight for dinner - I SO wanted to be helpful, but I suspect you were more tired after you left than when you came! : ) I snapped one last picture of the pregnant belly. WHOA! 

Almost 32 weeks

Just got this text:

All babies in 4 1/2 lb range. Dilated 1-2 and babies all dropped. Dr. S thinks next few days. Gave options of hosp or go home for even stricter bed rest. We are headed home. That's the story.

Sabrina also said that the hormones she's been given hopefully have the babies developed to more like 34 weeks.

Jenna Playdate

The TTF organized days that each of us could keep Jenna, so that Sabrina could actually take her bedrest seriously. On Friday, Jen and I get together for "art" and we teamed up to show Jens a good time! : ) We played outside, had lunch and most importantly......painted!

Week 29

Just got this text msg from Sabrina:

3.11lbs/3.4lbs/3.12lbs....all great....doc suspects next 2-3 wks.....doesn't take much to send a woman with over 10lbs into labor in his words....

I told her that was still too tiny, she needed to squeeze her legs together and lay down!! : )

The belly

We had Sab and Jenna over this week for a playdate. I tried not to be obnoxious, but I had to get pic on here of that belly. I think she said she's at 28 or 29 weeks, but is measuring full term. She thinks this is the biggest she's ever gotten because of all the stretch marks. : )

Sabrina was exhausted. She said the babies are sitting so high that she can't breath or eat. She's said she's afraid she's "mentally given up" on carrying the boys any longer, but it would be great if they could stay in until the end of October.

Offering Our Prayers

This will be the first of many prayer email posts. I wanted the Hay family to be able to look back at how faithful God has been to answer their prayers. I've asked Sabrina to email a small group of us weekly prayer needs and I'm just copying them in here too. My hope is that you (Hay family) will be encouraged and blessed!

Prayers....

continued strong growth of boys
Sab stop whining about problems and be ready to carry for 6-7 more weeks

1, 2, 3 Times a Baby

As of a couple weeks ago, I think Sabrina was measuring 10 weeks larger than what she really is, so in that case she will be bigger than any of us singlet mommies ever were before we know it! She is almost 26 weeks now! Well here is the text message that Sabrina sent me last night after their Dr. Apt.

"Babies look good. Jeremiah did not change much but that still puts his weight at 1.11 as average. Micah is 2.6 and Noah is 2.2. All looks good... Doc still said he would be surprised if I made it to 35 weeks... not because of anything he has seen in me but because of the tripet averages."

Also, Sabrina, Jenna, Me and Owen went to the Dinosaur Park this morning for a couple hours and Sabrina seemed really tired. She even expressed it in her own words, "If I knew that the boys would survive (which I guess they have a 90% survival rate at this point) and they would be healthy I would want them out right now... I am so miserable."

Poor Sabrina... We continue to keep you in our prayers!

Update

Email update that Sabrina sent me:

"I thought I would update you on my doc appt. All is well still! The babies are still larger than normal at 1lb 11oz, 1 lb 10oz, and 1lb 10oz! So praise God for that!! He gave me some steroids and other medicines to speed up the babies's development and give me some peace in heartburn and better digestion since my stomach has been forced up into my chest. My cervix is still long and the opening is closed; more than you wanted to know, I know! :o) So, that is the latest with Dr. Stewart! Just thought I would keep you in the loop!"

First Day of School

Today Sabrina walked Emma to her first day of kindergarten at Wayside amidst a flurry of construction. Sabrina, you surprised yourself by being a little teary. Emma had a brief bout of insecurity as she rounded the corner toward school, but she recovered quickly. (Of course, she'll shine at school. Sabrina caught her preparing for school by looking in a mirror, reciting, "Hi, I'm Emma! What's your name? You look stylish.") Sabrina returned to the Browns' a little winded (as any of us would be if we were carrying three other people!) to pick up Jenna and drive home.

Colored by Emma on Aug 5.

Can you see the stick Mom's tummy? It has 3 stick babies in it. : ) And what lovely penmanship!

Not The Ordinary Pregnancy....

Please feel free to add thoughts/moments you have with Sabrina over the next several months. Marcie & Caroline you might know better specifics like: what her tummy is measuring, what the doctor has said, just other amazing facts of this triplet pregancy. To add to this post click on "new post" in the top right corner, then click on the tab that says "edit posts" instead of new post at the top of this page. From there click "edit" in from of the title of this post (which you're welcome to change!)

Sabrina told me the other day that she is supposed to eat 4,000 calories a day!
~ Sarah